Being serious

Hi

Okey. I got this feedback recently which made me think. (Im grateful for it)

"You are too serious"

I got this before but that time I though - oh great... I like it... -
I dont like it anymore, it must be at last by some extent true. I must behave in a more serious way. Yes now also a lot of people think its not a problem, but I simply know that hey... its just not me.

I don't wanna be serious, I wanna be childish, playful, cheerful and funny.

It made me think. People tend to get serious by getting older. So they think that being serious comes with being adult. thats bullshit. okey if you are something like 70 you have to be more serious because you cannot just run around naked on a square or something like that. But come on, we are between 20 and 30. Phisycally we are in our best age...
I tell you what, we get more serious because we get more responsibility from life. Responsibility towards ourselves, towards our tasks (work) and towards other people. This increased responsbility creates a reaction that makes us behave in a more serious way.

But why?

If you have more responsibility, you have to be more responsible and not more serious! Is this some kind of natural reaction that comes with responsibility? "Adults do it and we mimic? Its even integrated to the society and its in our mindset (another paradigm).

If you dont behave seriously, you are automaticly considered to be childish and irresponsible...


I say this is bullshit! Fight against it! Be cheerful, enjoy life and be responsible!


"You dont stop playing because you get older, but you get old because you stop playing."


be good and playful

Jaq

The world around us

Recently I heard an interesting story.

Mr X was getting better in his career and now thinking to buy a car. His friend called him, offering him a new car, a gold-metal Mercedes. When he saw it, he just loved it. It was gorgeous for him, he has never seen such car in his life before. So he bought it.

Happily driving home he just noticed another golden Mercedes on the road, and another, and another… they were everywhere…

The thing is, that there were golden Mercedes cars on the road even before he bought his own, he just couldn’t see those because his mind was not “calibrated” to pay attention on those. He didn’t have the brain cells to notice them, to process them. They were irrelevant for him because he thought, they were not in his reach.

Each day we process millions of effects from the environment around us. How much do we see? How much do we let ourselves see? How much do we want to see? What do we filter out consciously or either unconsciously?

Another example, which is more unbelievable is that Cuban Indians on the beach didn’t see Colombus’ ships coming, they saw only the rifts on the ocean surface. They should have seen the ships but they didn’t because they have never seen anything like a huge Victorian ship from that age so they couldn’t imagine it, in addition they didn’t except anything like that.

I saw a film on Discovery channel a few days back about ancient Egypt. Those guys were one of the 1^st civilization of men-kind. The film pointed out some interesting facts. (lets not consider any alien interaction or any myths about the way the pyramids were built.)

There was a nation living in almost dessert, having only 1 river. They raised up by building pyramids, and by crating the society which is be able to build up pyramids.

They gave us one of the earliest good examples, they left behind a legacy for thousands of years. A Nation that built its legacy.

After this people just went for war as legacy.

Anyway I think we really have to look around for examples about this topic. Look for the invisible things. Look for the impossible things. Look for things we want even if they do not exist (or do they?).

Got my point? :)

Well, it’s a bit “darkish” but I feel like pasting it here:

I can see what you see not

Vision milky then eyes rot

When you turn they will be gone

Whispering their hidden song.

Then you see what cannot be

Shadows move where light should be

Out of darkness, out of mind

Cast down into the Halls of the Blind.

Be good!

Jaq

Start of the Journey...

Hey

New life, new blog, big words :)

Anyway, I dedicate this blog for those who are interested in my Journey of finding my way and realizing my dreams. Im going to share stuff happened to me, my thoughts and my learnings.
I believe this is going to be useful for myself, since


“there is a magical bond between our mind and hands, as we write down our thoughts and dreams they somehow come true…”


I noticed it on myself that it is somehow true, while I was writing down things in Sri Lanka I also put down some statements… well most of them came through. So I’m going to continue that.
This blog is also useful for all the people around my age since right now working and learning in an environment which is really energetic, motivating and brings me the right attitude to live a successful life on every field. Still, I do read other people’s blog and I find that you can actually learn a lot from other perspectives.
So learn from my mistakes, learn from my perspectives! :)

Im going to write in English. By this I exclude my relatives and some of their friends, but still…



So my previous blog was: http://jaqlanka.blogspot.com/
still in Hungarian, but for some people it can be really useful.

So, what happened to me since I arrived home to Hungary from Sri Lanka?
Well, quite a lot.

• I work for a guy who help other people to make their business dreams come true and this work has the most influence on my life right now
• I somehow reintegrated to the Hungarian culture slowly
• My Chinese girlfriend came, stayed for 2.5 months and left – hard stuff
• In 2009 I visited 9 countries: Sri Lanka, Hungary, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Polland, Italy, Austria, Holland, Belgium
• I met a lot of interesting people…

Well Im not going to detail these things down, probably some of them might be interesting but as always I’d like to stick to “what happening right now”.


Just imagine, there is a cowboy at your back, wearing a black hat, jeans and he really looks like a cowboy, blue eyes like Eastwood, you know that this guy is like your mentor, he is a good person, he wants to help you. This guy is pointing a gun at your head asking...


“What do you really want?!”


Well, I’m not the 1st and not the last to discuss this questions and there are people who built business empires around this questions. Just to mention one. The Secret


Still, I think most of the things start here. Okey, everything starts here. In the past months I changed a lot, some people might have noticed but now I’m pretty sure about it. It was a conscious change. In my daily routine, my habits, my thoughts, my attitude, in the way I behave. I did these because I learnt a lot and agreed that these things (and a lot more that I’m still going to introduce into my life) are important to live a successful and happy life.

But right now after I stated to walk on a path I have to stop just for a while and ask again: Jaq, what do you really want?!

Last week I was in the Netherlands. Kisses to those Dutch people, they are friendly and with all their scheduled, regulated way of thinking I love them :), but the main attraction of their country for a 25 years old guy are light drug and sex. So somewhere between X and Y last week I received a lot of input from the environment: discussions with foreigners from all over the world, thinking about the girl who had to leave me, enjoying the Dutch culture ^^, partying a lot, moving from city to city almost every day and sleeping in a different bed etc…
All these things led me to reaize that somehow in the past months though I did a lot of stuff right, I did something wrong. I was open waiting for opportunities telling myself that yeah I’m going to grab them as they come. And then I was waiting for them. Okey, some came… Still, this is not the right thing to do, this in not the answer for the question above or it is gonna take years to bring the answer.

Right now I do believe that the answer is the idea that doesn’t let me be for almost years now. Something to do with marketing and psychology, the 2 things I dug myself in the deepest so far.
I want to study and research on this field. I want to do it to develop something, to come up with something new and to do business out of it.

I’m still at the beginning, I have this path looming in front of me but it’s still blur. I need to collect information, I should not be afraid of obstacle since THERE ARE GOING TO BE, I need to find a mentor, I need to win my current mentors support, I have to sacrifice on the way, I have to set smaller milestones as the picture gets clearer and recognize myself when reaching them, I have to learn and develop, I need help…


Follow me on my journey!


cheers

Jaq

New blog, new life?

Hey I started this in english to be able to share those things that come out of my mind with more ppl.

I'll write something "deep" soon.

Jaq